We want to get back as much as we give and return what was given. No one feels left out or pushed off to the side. Unless that is something predetermined, it's about x tonight. No scat or pee play. We have a toy chest that we both enjoy. She doesn't want a pillow princess lol. She wants that reciprocated. He doesn't mind guidance or assistance from him and will do the same. We are both comfortable with ourselves. We prefer to be naked when we can.